How do you respond to naysayers?

Corey Winter 0:01
Welcome to 10 minutes to being boss Kidwai side show for creative business owners where we give you actionable insights, tools and tactics on Korea winter. here's your host, Emily Thompson.

Emily Thompson 0:14
I am so excited to be here rebooting the 10 minutes to being ball show it is going to be fresh, it's going to be packed with value. And hopefully it is my hope that is also entertaining too, which is why you're here, Cory, for comedic relief.

Corey Winter 0:26
I think I'm only funny when I'm not put on the spot. So I'll do what I can.

Emily Thompson 0:32
I'm sure you will. But really, the reason why you're here is because we know that the secret sauce of being boss is conversation and you are here to help give the questions that are being asked contact so that there is applicable to as many business owners as possible. And quite honestly, I don't really want to just say you're talking to myself. So let's get started. What question do you have for me today?

Corey Winter 0:54
Well, I figured we would start out with something that came up recently in the big boss community. It's long been a hot topic in the world of being a creative. And that is how do you deal with well meaning family or friends who don't see your move into pursuing a creative career, or starting your own business as a good thing?

Emily Thompson 1:12
Well, if this isn't the most foundational concern for almost every creative and entrepreneur I've ever met, I don't know what is coming second, perhaps do Am I crazy for doing this thing. Now as with everything being boss, we have to start with mindset, you need to understand two things. One, make sure that you're not projecting, don't make it up in your head that your mom is worried about you when in fact, you're just worried about yourself. tackling this first, by making sure you're convinced that you can do this will allow you to clearly see what others are feeling for you without you muddying it up with your own feelings. Remember, being boss is knowing that you've got this. Second, once you establish that your family or friends are worried or scared or whatever, know that those feelings have nothing to do with you and your ability to do this. They have their own reasons. Maybe they felt it attempts in the past or seen friends lose everything, or maybe simply have the idea of a starving artist lodged in their head. And it's almost always rooted in a sincere desire for you to be well taken care of and operating from a place of security. But you also need to accept that their feelings really have nothing to do with you. And you can either help them through or honestly ignore them, if you choose to help them through, because maybe you don't want your dad to go on blood pressure medicine, because you've decided to start your own business, sometimes the best thing you can do is simply give them clarity around your decisions to help them see that this is a good choice for you. Give definition to their unknown by telling them about your business, what you'll be doing, and who you'll be helping, depending on the relationship but feel free to go deeper with the nuts and bolts of it. Not only is it a good practice for you to be talking about what you do, but it can put them at ease by showing them that you've got this

Corey Winter 2:59
there was actually one boss in the community that suggested that you just tell them hey, thank you for your concern, but I'm going forward anyway.

Emily Thompson 3:08
Yes, because on the flip side of that, I don't believe you owe anyone any explanations except maybe those who depend on you most like your spouse, or your kids, if they're older. Instead of letting the fear or worry of others keep you from doing your thing. Let it bolster your action go prove them wrong. For many of us, especially entrepreneur types that we love a good opportunity to bring up a hearty, I told you so. But also I recommend that you don't add big warriors or naysayers to your list of business advisors, or to the list of folks that you go to gripe about your business to these people will not be unbiased observers. So look for advice or a place to vent elsewhere. And finally, know that their concern will dissipate over time, especially as your business finds its footing and you begin to grow. We're in uncharted territory. Gone are the days where everyone gets a hearty, 401 k, and a job that they can depend on for the next 40 years. If you are here wanting to give it a go, then you're already on the path. Jump on and don't let anyone pull you off.

Corey Winter 4:13
Amen. That's, that's, that's what you guys usually see right there. Right?

Emily Thompson 4:18
Amen. Amen. A little more Southern with it. If you want to do it right. They may

Corey Winter 4:24
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